Life has never moved the way we would choose it. Their always roadblocks.Many a time we get confused and disappointed with situations that happen on us. We cry, yarn, and curse. But what is wrong with us?
In the holy book, the Quran, God tells us a story of how Prophet Musa could not be more patient and he lost out born a lot of knowledge that he could have learnt from Zulqanain. If we could be a little bit more patient, may be ….. But we are never. We are always in a hurry trying to fix something we do not even understand.
Life is abundant. It has so much life, beauty and space. Even if we wanted to occupy it, we can never occupy it to its capacity. We can all occupy it, fulfill our dreams but leave it the way we found it. Then, why are you jealous of the other? Who tells you that she/he has taken what is meant to be yours?
I always look at jealous as a result of ignorance.
Today, I visited one of the biggest book store in Kampala, Aristoc Book Shop http://www.alibaba.com/member/aristoc.html. I was overwhelmed. There is so much literature. Big, small, dangerous and beautiful.
It is always easy to dissociate yourself from certain things when you have not checked if they are good or bad. But you can ever go wrong with information. Something will always get you off guard and you even start to wonder where you have been.
It is very natural. Once in a lifetime, you will feel superior. You wake up one day and start to think that you are so educated, intelligent, beautiful or even rich. You go on to feel that you do not measure up to some people. And the next step, you will start to criticize and abuse. It may not be verbal, it may just be change of perception, attitude or action.
Who tells you that you are superior than all those you are looking down at?
Today, something got me wondering. I was on face book. I requested for some one to be my friend. I did not know her neither does she. But deep inside me, I have always admired her. Now it is so many months and she has ignored my request. Why? She is someone in a higher social class than mine.
There is word - destiny. It has become a common word. People use it often in speeches, books and movies.
You see tittles like, "How to determine your destiny, Preparing for your destiny, Manifest your destiny and so on "
And I have always used it. Destiny?
Today, as I finalize my day, I have this to say: You have one one else to blame other than you. God gave you whatever, but each day you compalin about everything; the weather, the parents, the country and almost everything. What is wrong with you?
Life has taught me so much. And I have come to embrace the best school in life which is life itself. In the process, I have kept on wondering, "why are people very proud? But why?"
You enter a supermarket where you have been a customer for years, but because this time you have come with a proposal to supply them with a product, they become so proud? For sure, what makes man to feel that he is so special and has liberty to ignore another?
You may be a doctor, lawyer, banker, chef, name it. You think you are special because you have a Mercedes,won a beauty pea gent, own a big business, a classy clinic,
This is a command. Just stop right there. Just for a moment. Whatever you are doing. However important you think it is, just stop. Hold it longer.
Okay. It is time to start thinking about what ever you have been doing with your life. Is it so important? If so, how important it is? How does it contribute to your main purpose of living? Are you living to the best of your creation? Are you really serving your God? If yes, keep it up as you praise your God.
I have always wondered so much about Satan. He seems to have so much influence, power and followers. Go anywhere and he will be there waiting to lead you. Halt it a bit. Do you really know Satan's biggest and strongest weapon?
Like many other expectant mothers, giving birth remains a mystery. You count days, hours but you can never be sure when exactly it will be. Even with a lot of preperations, you remain unprepared for the real job - the so called pushing.
Mine was never different. Three birth already, this fourth one was much wild. I was too worried and to anxious as if I had no knowledge at all. In the end, I had to face it alone. I waited for the expected date but nothing happened
Let's talk about working mothers a bit. These mothers, like other mothers, they love their babies. But normally, they are always torn between which choice to make. They have been in class, done a lot of reading and they are dreaming of climbing corporate ladders like men.
And now, working for mothers has become something fashionable and trendy; as the days of being a house wife are a being out styled. Yet, it is easy to think that in the present woman emancipation, any work from home mum is making women little progressive while men keep enjoying the bigger chunk.
Women just like you, obviously have so many reasons
that would prompt them to become workingmothers. But women who have to work
because of choice find it guilty than those that work for economic constraints.
Then, should chasing a career path deprive you of the motherly
responsibilities? Is that attaining full success? What is most important; your child or the job? You have to make a choice or strike a well balanced solution such that you do not regret when it is too late.
However, women love both worlds; working and mothering.
But research has shown that it is difficult if not almost impossible
to have the success of both of them at the same time.
Then one wonders, why not work from home? It would
be so good if mothers thought of an option to be work at home mums at least for some time. Since with the
present competitive economy, many people are recognizing with increased
technology, that it’s no longer where you work from, but rather, what you
contribute to the growing society. Just think about it!
It is one big secret of happy successful people. A must tool for all effective people. They do all it takes to have a live of happiness and victory. They lead their lives on the principle that, 'Leadership is about doing the right thing.'
They struggle to know and understand their life purpose and the boundaries of their lives. Every day, they live a life of perfecting their responsibilities as leaders, mangers, fathers,sons, spouses, daughters, citizens and even friends. For they are aware that they are not where they are for the sake of it but only because they have a purpose to fulfill where ever they are.
Personal leadership says that you have to make the right decisions for your life before the right way. It does not matter most how quick and easy you climb the ladder of success but it is about if you are climbing the right ladder.
Personal leadership is not about what quality of law school you attend if you are not even sure of your purpose as a person. Soon or later, to discover that indeed what you have always loved to do in life was agriculture. Personal leadership is about clarifying your long time life VALUES and make a decision based solely on them.
Ever been in a situation when you want to start on something new? Those days where you have postponed to tomorrow, the next day and now you are counting months of your delay? Ifyou have not, you are yet to.
Starting, just like other dos in life, is not something of a joke. When you decide to start on that course, habit, business, family and even change of wardrobe, there will always be reasons trying to stop you. Issues like lack of skill, money, current job, kids may seem to break into your way telling you that you cannot go on. But are they always the only things. Aren’t you using them as excuses to justify your real fear of failing to start? They always say, one step at a time; do something small for the start in the direction of what you want and believe.
Is your dream worth your full success? Won't you have it at the cost of your wife, children, religious beliefs, parents or even yourself?
Before that craziness of chasing that dream, first of all, be sure that it will bring full success deep inside your soul. It should be a dream that no matter what happens in your life, it’s not it to blame. It should make you comfortable, proud,and have respect for other important aspects in your life and above all, it should be something you love to do even if it were for free.
After years chasing the world of sciences, I later discovered that Engineering and climbing corporate ladders were not my passion.
I just love to discover more about life and how best I can serve my God better. And if by any chance, I happen to make you learn a life principle; either through a conversation or a written pierce, then I will live to celebrate that day.
Just trust me for I know why I live this way.
